When Bombs Go Off

By : korski
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He went on a vacation with his happily married brother. They saw temples and they went fishing and they took guided tours around Bangkok. They heard what all men hear about Thailand and its tens of thousands of young women and what they do for money. He did it once, twice, and then several more times while his brother read by the pool or ate too much, and drank too much. And never asked too many questions because he's a man.

He tells complete strangers that his three sons are big boys. They understand like all men understand. They will not question what he is doing.

His daughter is angry with him, and she won't talk to him. She found out by going to her mother and asking why her father was staying away from home so long. And why he changed his return ticket so that he'd be arriving home on Christmas Eve. Her mother said, Go to the Internet and Google Pattaya and you will have all your answers. She said no more. The daughter asked no further questions of the mother. She didn't have to. Everything was right there on the Internet.

He tells complete strangers that his daughter should stay out of his business, that this issue is between his wife and him. He has no desire to tell his daughter what went wrong. It'll be worked out between the two of them.

He dropped out of college because he wanted to make money, and he did. He bought a restaurant and doubled its size. He bought apartments and rented them. He bought stocks and bonds and made money on them. His Russian wife helped him in all of these efforts. She worked the same long hours that he did. And along the way they had three children. Through all of this growth and change and money making and growing older, and having children, they had a good and mutually satisfying sex life.

But along the way, this road along which he got older and richer and his body began to show signs of obvious decay, he grew in size. Slowly. A pound here, another one or two two weeks later. By forty he weighed more than 250 pounds, and he was working long hours at the restaurant and at the apartments doing repairs. He was not paying attention. The weight continued to go up.

At fifty-one he had a near-fatal heart attack. They inserted a couple of stents, gave him medicines for high blood pressure and diabetes, and a machine that he would use nightly now for the rest of his life. Or until he lost a good deal of weight, which he would not do. The machine is for breathing, to control his serious apnea, to make it possible to sleep throughout the night and be able to run the restaurant and the apartments and manage the portfolio of stocks and bonds.

His faithful and hard-working Russian wife said she could not stand the noise of the machine to control his apnea. She needed her own bedroom. And that, he tells complete strangers, is where the problem began. Their sex life had come to an end. Now she would visit his room once a week, or less frequently. She would get beside him on the bed and face toward the wall and offer him her ass. No more. Never anything more than her ass to poke, he tells complete strangers who tell him false stories about their own histories. They do not even kiss. He loves to kiss. This is how he has always decided whether he wants to have sex with a woman.

He found that it did not matter that he weighs more than 250 pounds and wears thick glasses and talks crudely with the young women about what he wants them to do if they go with him for the night. They always oblige, as long as he pays them what they ask.

More trips followed, but without his brother. Trips initially to explore the possibility of opening a textile import-export business, he told his wife and anyone who asked. But the trips lasted a month, then six weeks, and soon he no longer talked about the money-making scheme that would add to their already considerable income. He told his wife nothing about these extended trips and what he was really doing. But he tells complete strangers that his wife knows what he is doing, and it doesn't matter to her. She won't change her behavior no matter what he does.

Coming home on Christmas Eve, and then being quite sick for the next week because of a cold he picked up from the last young Thai woman he was with the day before he flew home, was enough to get his wife to tell him that they now had a serious problem. Something had to be done about these many trips of his to Thailand. He told her that all that had to be done to fix their relationship and return to the good times of old was for her to come back to his bed and sleep with him on a regular basis. If she did so he would no longer make these trips to Thailand. He swore he would not do so.

She doesn't hear him. She doesn't want to hear him. She doesn't like the noisy machine, and so all he'll get in the future, as long as they are together, is what he is now getting. Her ass to poke once a week, or less frequently, while she blankly stares at the wall on the side of the bed where the noisy machine sits. Most times she comes to his room she doesn't bother to take off her clothes. She pushes up her dress and pulls down her panties and says, Okay, do what you must.

He told her that they should wait to decide what to finally do to resolve their problem. They should wait, he told her, for a couple of years until all the children have left home. Then they can decide what must be done. Because, he has told her, when they get to this point a bomb will go off. And you know what happens when bombs go off, don't you? he told her.

Do you really know what happens when bombs go off? He told her the last time she came to his room and lay beside him and he begged to see her face and have what they once had and she refused him.

 

The author can be contacted at:  korski1@cox.net

 

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mike
September 25, 2008, 13:25

I feel that there are many punters coming to Thailand for the same reasons as the character in this story is. If you can't get what you want and need in your home country and home/relationship many will use alternative avenues to get what they want. The bargirls here can supply all kinds of needed/desired fantasies, even the heralded (or despised) GFE (girlfriend experience).

Many men want at least the fantasy of love, respect and tenderness/affection, and will pay for it. I believe they feel it is better than nothing. I myself think it is at best a patch on the wound, and most men feel, after a while, that even this fantasy is unfulfilling for their emotional needs. But then, in the west, who really cares about mens emotional and sexual needs?

Where is the male version of Oprah, telling the men of America and the west that they are worthy, and okay, handsome and decent guys even if they are overweight, old and balding? "-)

The bargirls of the world (especially in Thailand) fill that emotional void many men find themselves having later in life and sometimes even throughout their whole lives. The problem is, many guys fall prey to the delusion that it is real.
korski
September 25, 2008, 21:24

Interesting topic for discussion. Is the GFE actually despised by some?
steve rosse
September 26, 2008, 00:04

"Where is the male version of Oprah, telling the men of America and the west that they are worthy, and okay, handsome and decent guys even if they are overweight, old and balding?" How about Humphrey Bogart, John Wayne, or even Roger Moore as 007? Fat, balding men who were held up in the media as sex gods for decades. Hugh Hefner is old as dirt but he's got three blonde hotties on his arm and wears pajamas to the Grammies. The media is full of messages that say a man is gorgeous as long as he has a little money. Benjamin Franklin was the original "monger" and he looked like a turtle.
korski
September 26, 2008, 04:24

Don't think you quite hit this one on the head, Steve. Hefner's had a line of good looking airhead ladies going back decades, and a hell of a lot of money (a point you do make), and probably a dexterous nine-inch dong to boot. With the others, and even Hef, you're showing your age. JW had a toupe, but how many people knew it? He may have had a few extra pounds about the belly, but when was the last time you looked at middle-aged American men at Denny's? Bogart died what--half a century ago? And no one would know him but the reruns of Casablanca. The Oprah reference, I think, was meant to draw attention--not put up there by me--the millions of women she has access to daily. And not women with money. Fat women, divorced women, ugly women, just plain losers. Don't know why you mention BF? I thought all mongers could be turtles and it would rarely matter as long as there were greenbacks in the pockets.
Marc Holt
September 26, 2008, 06:52

Sexy men? Handsome decent guys who just happen to be old, fat and balding? Yeah right! The GFE is for losers, just like the bloke in this story. Just look around you here in Thailand. Plenty of bomb survivors here. But what good has it done them? They come over here looking for love but end up paying for a little comfort and sex. How sad.

Then there are the blokes who make the effort to learn Thai, get involved in the culture and meet good women they can set up a decent life with. Those are my heroes.
Union Hill
September 26, 2008, 11:50

"I thought all mongers could be turtles and it would rarely matter as long as there were greenbacks in the pockets."

Now this is true. I was recently sitting at a bar beer which was staffed by three or four cracking looking girls. The only other customer was an Englishman on holiday. He was in his mid fifties, at a guess and would have been unremarkable except that the poor chap was as ugly as sin. His face resembled a cracked wallnut. He barfined one of these good looking girls and off they went together. She didn't miss a beat and her smile didn't slip for even an instant.
korski
September 26, 2008, 12:15

Come on Marc! You're too blatantly patting yourself on the back.
Dana
September 26, 2008, 20:16

"Then there are the blokes who make the effort to learn Thai."

I spent thousands of words in essay(s) form on this subject on Anotherwebsite.com years ago. You can not learn Thai by making an effort. It is a tonal language. It takes years and total immersion to just reach incompetency level. To get to competency level is at best a dream. Measured in terms of reward for effort it is a waste of time and money and emotion unless God has spoken to you and told you that your next twenty years are going to be in Thailand. Even then I am not convinced it has value and for some men it is not achieveable under any circumstances. The subject of 'learning languages' sends me to flashpoint possibly faster then anything else I come in contact with.
steve rosse
September 27, 2008, 02:51

"You can not learn Thai by making an effort." When I worked for The Nation I was one of only three farang journalists who was allowed to do our own translation of interviews. Every other non-Thai had to submit a tape of the interview to a Thai editor who would translate the quotes. Too much risk in putting the wrong words in an important person's mouth. But they trusted three of us to know enough Thai language, and enough Thai Thainess, to do our own quotes. I learned my Thai in a six-week course at the AUA school in Chiang Mai, and I taught English in the hotels on Phuket for two years. That's all the effort it took. It's definitely worth the time, just in what you save in taxi fare.
Marc Holt
September 27, 2008, 06:00

Korski, if I don't pat our collective backs, who will? ;-)

As for learning Thai, I know plenty of farung who have mastered the language, tones and all. Here's a funny anecdote about AUA language school. I am a musician with a perfect pitch ear. I was already speaking Thai when I went to AUA, but one of their courses sounded very interesting so I went to the introduction speech. Almost the first thing the teacher asked was if there were any musicians in the crowd. A couple of us answered yes. And this is where he lost us. He said that we wouldn't find learning the tones any easier. Arrant nonsense! You hav to be able to hear the tones before you can form the sound. They didn't get my money.

I hear many farung trying to speak Thai and mangling it horribly. Not only do they find it difficult to get their tongues around the tones, but often their native accents are too thick to allow them to make the sound properly. Ever heard a Gordie trying to speak Thai? Hilarious.

So, Dana, learning Thai is not impossible, but it does mean you have to immerse yourself...just like learning any other language. I daresay even you could speak it with a little application and thorough immersion...but you would have to keep your head up while learning.
Dana
September 27, 2008, 21:11

"I learned my Thai in a six-week course at the AUA school in Chiang Mai,"

This places you in the prodigy category and so can not be used as an example of anything for the average or above average person.

Dana
September 27, 2008, 21:28

"Almost the first thing the teacher asked was if there were any musicians in the crowd. A couple of us answered yes. And this is where he lost us. He said that we wouldn't find learning the tones any easier."

Actually Marc there is the possibility that what the teacher was saying was based on experience: to wit--the farangs who were audio/musically/perfect pitch gifted could not learn the language either. I have a theory that many Thais can not speak the language and they are just faking it.

Years ago I worked in a shipyard on the island of St. John in the Carribbean. Me plus another guy from the States named Alan Johnson who had lived there for years and the rest natives. One day Alan pointed out to me that every third or fourth or fifth word the natives said was "What?" They could not understand each other either.
steve rosse
September 28, 2008, 23:58

"This places you in the prodigy category and so can not be used as an example of anything for the average or above average person." No, Dude, the Kingdom is full of below average, average or above-average farang who speak passable to fluent Thai, and who learned simply by putting in some effort. You'll meet them if you get out of the bars, by the way.
korski
September 29, 2008, 10:02

No, Dude, the Kingdom is full of below average, average or above-average farang who speak passable to fluent Thai...

Sorry, but I just don't believe this. I have traveled Latin America and SEA for more than 20 years and met all kinds of people who say they speak the local language, and what 9 out of 10 in fact mean is that they know a dozen or so phrases and a few words and understand about as much. This is a long long way from "fluent" anything.
Rob Carry
September 29, 2008, 15:01

"Measured in terms of reward for effort it is a waste of time and money and emotion unless God has spoken to you and told you that your next twenty years are going to be in Thailand."

The process of learning the language isn't going to be hugely enjoyable for everyone in-and-of-itself, but when you get a few phrases and start using them the response from the Thais certainly is. Many Thais really appreciate when foreigners make the effort to speak the language of the land rather than assuming everyone can cater to them 100 per cent of the time. Even if you're never going to be fluent (although some farang certainly are) it's worth learning how to greet people properly, thank them and how to give directions to a taxi driver. I think it's the least long-term guests in a country can do.
steve rosse
September 29, 2008, 18:24

Korski: Why would I lie about a thing like this? I lived in Thailand for 7 years and I met LOTS of farang who speak Thai. Not who said they speak Thai, but who speak Thai. Like me, many worked for Thais, and thus had to speak Thai to keep their jobs. But also just many long-term expats who learned the language to communicate with their in-laws or servants or lawyers. Because Thailand has been welcoming to foreigners for so long it has a relatively large population of long-term expats, and it's just a simple fact that many speak Thai very well. Why are you surprised? I have a friend who lives in Mexico City; he speaks Spanish. My cousin travels to Israel several times a year; he speaks Hebrew. The sommelier in any hotel will speak French, Italian, and German. Intelligent people go through life and they pick up languages like they pick up any other skills. Again, I ask: Why are you surprised?
Dana
September 29, 2008, 21:23

"You'll meet them if you get out of the bars, by the way."

Crazy talk. Finally something worth fighting for.
Dana
September 29, 2008, 21:59

I have a friend who owns a 7-11 in Boston. He is constantly interviewing people to work in the store. Many of them are not fluent in English and they were born here. Fluent means read and write and speak. But if we just use fluent to mean speak they are still not fluent. Makes him crazy. More and more difficult to run his business.
korski
September 30, 2008, 12:00

No, no, no. I still don't believe you. I learned Spanish in my twenties, and was still learning it several years later after spending a year and a half in the isolated high Andes, and Spanish for a native English speaker is a cakewalk compared to a tonal language. Many years later I worked my ass off learning Brazilian Portuguese, and that was also a cakewalk and much much closer to English than Thai. In fact, when you get beyond about 15, you need to go to a different part of the brain to pick up a language. Now, what you call fluency I in all likelihood call barely there, how to get to the toilet, order a meal, tell the wife to get lost, and not much more; and remember we're dealing with an expat population that tries to pick up a language at 40 and above and in most cases does not even have a college education--not that this is the measure, but age is one hell of an impediment to picking up any language, including one as simple as Spanish. Again, I'd give you ten to one odds that you're talking through your hat, and this idea of picking up a language is "like picking up any other skill" is...come on Steve, I wasn't born yesterday.
steve rosse
September 30, 2008, 19:25

"Fluent means read and write and speak." My dictionary (Webster's) says "fluent" means "able to express yourself clearly." Doesn't specify whether that means reading, writing, speaking, sign language, dancing, painting, sculpting, or playing the trumpet.
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