Wednesday 4 September: My pay is in the bank and I expect at least one call from Toy asking when the money will go into the (joint) bank account. Mem did not go to my apartment so I could not pay her any money. I have decided to withhold payment to Mem in an effort to get (at least) my mobile phone returned.
Thursday 5 September: Lek and I went to Buri Ram for the weekend. I packed my bags at lunchtime and did not go to my apartment after work, and thus could not pay Mem any money as Toy had requested. Toy's reaction to this might be interesting.
Tuesday 10 September: Jeab asked to be taken to the doctor, so I took her to Bangkok Nursing Home (cost 1,808 Baht). I have still not heard anything from Toy, and nothing seems to have come of Noy's statement that she would "do something" concerning Joy.
Thursday 12 September: I contacted Toy by phone. Her demeanour could best be described as hostile and threatening. She seemed to be greatly annoyed that the money had not been paid to Mem, asking me if I wanted to die in Thailand. I interpret that as a threat, but she will probably lose her anger, given time. In discussion with Toy on 2 Oct, she told me that this was the day that she returned to Bangkok, but had not gone to the apartment because she had been told by Jeab that Lek was there.
Sunday 15 September: Toy telephoned me at the apartment and, using a third person whose voice I did not recognise, asked to speak to Lek. Not expecting this subterfuge, I gave the phone to Lek, and Toy and Lek spoke to one another in sharp terms (in Thai) for a short time before Lek terminated the call. Toy redialled a few times, but I terminated the calls. Lek eventually decided that she would speak to Toy and we called her. I could hear the conversation and Toy rapidly escalated the tone of this conversation to very sharp terms, and Lek eventually ended the conversation herself. Lek later told me that the terms of the conversation had been extremely rude, with Toy calling Lek names and Lek responding in kind.
Monday 16 September: I phoned Toy. She was calm and rational. When I asked her if she was still angry, she said "No, only angry with Lek.” She suggested that we could get together to talk, but I demurred. Subsequently, I phoned Toy again to check her attitude and it appeared to be good.
Tuesday 17 September: Toy told me that she would return to the apartment "this afternoon". She did not.
Wednesday 18 September: I received a suggestion from one of my colleagues that Toy may have another man. However, this seems inconsistent with Toy's attitude to me having another woman. If she has a boyfriend, why get angry with me for having another woman? I believe the information to be false, possibly disinformation planted in an effort to make me jealous.
Thursday 19 September: Toy came to the Embassy and I gave her the money for Mem (9,000 Baht). Later, I went with her and paid the school fees for the two girls (5,000 Baht). Toy said that she would come to the apartment that night, but she did not come.
Friday 20 September: I stayed with Lek, Toy arrived at the compound, was refused access, but was allowed to see the resident staff welfare officer.
Sunday 22 September: Toy cancelled our appointment at the temple. I spoke to the welfare officer who admitted that Toy had been there, and told me that Toy had told her "the same story that I had told her, but from a different viewpoint".
Monday 23 September: I spoke to Toy, and she said that she would come home "tomorrow one more", meaning Wednesday.
Wednesday 25 September: Toy failed to return home. She claimed that she had to cook food for the monk in the morning, and to return home and have to return to cook at 5:00 A.M. would be too tiring. She apologised to me for not returning (this is the first time she has ever apologised to me for anything), and said that she would return tomorrow "for sure" - the first time that I can recall her using that expression.
Thursday 26 September: Toy returned. We talked a little, but there is still a lot more talking to be done. Toy has pawned her gold necklace for 12,000 Baht. Since she first went to Isaan, she has taken nearly 30,000 Baht from our joint bank account. She claims to have earned 20,000 Baht from her "work" and says that she paid'15,000 Baht off her debt. This means that in 2 months she has spent more than 45,000 Baht making me desperately unhappy.
Friday 27 September: Toy went to Chonburi and Sattahip with Mem.
Sunday 29 September: Toy returned to Bangkok about 2.00 P.M., and stayed with Mem until late evening.
Wednesday 2 October: Toy agreed to go to a function held at my office, but later declined because she was changing the colour of her hair (she arrived home late with slightly reddened hair). We talked a fair bit, and it transpired that her biggest concern is HIV (another indication that the 18 September information is spurious). She wants me to go to a clinic for a check.
Thursday 3 October: Toy went to Mem's place to cook food for the monk and ended up staying the night. Baew is in Thailand for her mother's funeral on Saturday and she phoned me to ask me (and by association, Toy) to attend. Toy agreed to go.
Saturday 5 October: Toy and I attended the funeral for Ma-Nee. On the return journey, we stopped to get something to eat and I phoned Lek, telling her that I would not get back to Bangkok until late, and would not go to see her. She hung up on me. When Toy and I returned to the apartment, Toy locked herself in the bathroom, and while she was there, Lek phoned to apologise for hanging up on me, and asked me to visit her. I considered that Toy was up to her usual tricks - would probably sit watching TV until late and I was asleep, so I went with the sure thing and went to see Lek.
Sunday 6 October: Toy's brother, one of his friends, and the friend's wife arrived to take away my troublesome car. Toy and I had a long talk in the evening and we came to an agreement between ourselves. Toy took her brother to look for Noy that evening, but they could not find her. Surprisingly, Toy phoned me to let me know what was happening. They returned after I had gone to sleep.
Monday 7 October: Toy and I had time to ourselves when we woke. At 7:00, Toy and her brother and friend, etc., departed for Ubon in my car. Toy has my agreement for her to go, but knows to phone me regularly at home. Just before 11:00 Toy phoned my work number and left a message with one of my co-workers to tell me that she was at the airport and the car had broken down. She did not phone me back later to confirm this, so I assumed that the car had been fixed and they were on their way again.
Wednesday 9 October: Toy phoned me as agreed, albeit to ask for more money.
Friday 11 October: Toy phoned again, but I was out organising money. All seems well between us now.
(To be continued.)